Looking back on the past few years the most important lesson I have learned is that settling because it feels the most comfortable or because you feel like there is not a way out is not the answer.
It is easy to just settle in for the fear of the unknown or the thoughts that you may not find any better whatever the circumstances may be. It is also easier said than done to get out of these circumstances when you are actually in them and it is so easy to point fingers and judge when you are not personally involved. You can tell others why you feel they should get out of a relationship, find a job that makes them happy or to drop friends that don't respect them until you until you are blue in the face but I encourage you to think of a time where you have also been in a similar situation and maybe be a bit more sensitive to what is going on.
Having said all that, by being in a relationship that I kept going back to even though our core values were so completely different to the point where we could not agree on anything big or small helped teach me what I want in a relationship.
By being in a work environment where others would purposely embarrass me or try to make me feel badly to make themselves feel better or more superior to a job where I am respected and liked taught me what is and is not acceptable in a place where you should enjoy going to everyday and that sometimes speaking up is the better option.
By being in friendships where I felt like I could not be 100% myself and cared way too much about what they thought of me or by being in friendships where we had nothing in common has taught me that it is okay to let go and find other friends.
Through these experiences I have learned so much and think it is so important not to settle for less and to not bend your non-negotiable's for anybody. If you are in a relationship where one person wants something but the other does not, really think about if you are okay with either outcome, if you are not maybe that relationship is not for you. If you are at a job where you are not happy, think of a solution where you will be and speak up and say something if that does not work. If you are finding it hard to connect to the friends you are spending time with, think about what your interests or hobbies are and look for friends that enjoy the same things, they are out there. Trust me. Just some food for thought.
What are some of your non-negotiable's?