Confidence is not something that comes naturally to a lot of us, myself included. It has taken many years to get to where I am today with lots of ups and downs along the way. Some of the things that have helped me be more confident within myself are:
1. Surrounding myself with positive people that make me feel good about where I am in my life and where I want to be in the future. Having friends and family that support you unconditionally and that will have your back through not only the good but also the bad is something that has helped me tremendously.
2. Taking the time to be single after a long and unhealthy relationship. Being single for a few years was one of the best things that could have happened to me. It allowed me to pick up the pieces that I had lost along the way and make them stronger. It was a time in my life where I was able to reflect and learn who I was as an individual and be genuinely happy with the person that I am. It also allowed me to think about what I wanted in a relationship and not settle for less. I am so thankful for this time because it led me to who I am today and into a relationship that makes me happier than I have ever been.
3. Fake it till you make it. Now just to clarify, I do not mean become a fake version of yourself, that will get you nowhere. When I say this, I mean reassure yourself positively of something you may be unsure or nervous about even if you do not believe it in that moment. Going on a first date with somebody? You are an attractive, funny and smart individual that is going to blow their socks off. Have a job interview? You are qualified, extremely likable and have no reason to be nervous because you are going to kill it. Going to a party where you don't know that many people? You are easy going, make friends easily and have amazing party tricks if all else fails. You catch my drift.
Something that inspired me into this mindset is a TED Talks video that explains how your body language and faking it till you make it affects how others view you. It is 20 minutes long, but if you have the time I highly recommend watching it.
Those are just a few things that have made me a more confident person through the years. What are some things that you do (or have done in the past) that have made you a confident person? Let me know in the comments!